DATING SAFETY
Rapists are not always strangers. When someone you know—a date, steady, acquaintance, or casual friend—forces you to have sex, it is still Sexual Assault.
When dating you should….
Always tell someone where you are going with your date, with whom, and when you are expected to return.
Check out a first date or a blind date with friends. Meet in and go to public places. Carry money for a taxi or take your own car in case you need to cut the date short.
Pay attention to what your date says about him or herself. If you detect discrepancies this should raise a flag.
Trust your instincts. If a place or the way your date acts makes you nervous or uneasy get away from the situation.
When out with friends, stay together and try not to separate. Do not leave a social event with someone you have just met or do not know well.
If you do not know someone's real name, you do not know them.
Be careful not to let alcohol or other drugs decrease your ability to take care of yourself and make sensible decisions.
Do not accept beverages from someone you do not know or trust. Never leave it unattended.
You do not have the right to force a date to have sex just because you paid for dinner or drinks.
Accept a person’s decision when he/she says, “No!” Do not interpret that as a challenge.
Avoid clouding your judgment and understanding of what another person wants by using alcohol or drugs.
Do not assume that a person wants to have sex just because he/she is drinking heavily, the way he/she dresses, or agrees to go home with you.
Never have sex with anyone who is passed out or asleep.
Do not assume that just because a person has had sex with you previously he or she is willing to have sex with you again.
Do not assume that if a person consents to kissing or other sexual intimacies he or she is willing to have sexual intercourse.
Forcing a person to have sex against his/her will is sexual assault, a violent crime with serious consequences.
Never be drawn into a gang rape. Be prepared to resist pressure from friends to participate.
If you see a person in trouble at a party or a friend using force or pressuring a person, do not be afraid to intervene. Your intervention may prevent the person from the trauma of sexual assault as well as preventing your friend from the ordeal of criminal repercussions.
Ask yourself how sexual stereotypes affect your attitudes and actions toward other people.
What are “date rape” drugs….
Rohypnol (“roofies,” “circles,” “the forget pills”) works like a tranquilizer. It causes muscle weakness, fatigue, slurred speech, loss of motor coordination and judgment, and amnesia that lasts up to 24 hours. It looks like an aspirin (small, white, and round).
GHB (also known as “liquid X,” “salt water,” or “scoop”) causes quick sedation. Its effects are drowsiness, nausea, vomiting, headaches, dizziness, coma, and possibly death. Its most common form is a clear liquid, although it also can take the form of a white, grainy powder.
Rohypnol and GHB are called the date rape drugs because when they are slipped into someone’s drink a sexual assault can take place without the victim being able to remember what happened.
If you believe you have been subjected to a "date rape" drug call 911 or Campus Police immediately.
On Line Dating
Never give out your home or dorm address, phone number, the name of your school or any other personal details to people you do not know.
If you decide to talk to someone on the phone, ask to call him/her. Make sure to use caller ID block (*67).
Use a nickname in chat rooms or message boards. T
rust your instincts. If you pick up on contradictions or inconsistencies from your chat friend, or something does not feel right, end your communication with him/her.
Meet chat friends in public places.
Always tell someone where you are going with your on-line date, who your on-line date is, and when you will return.
Take a cell phone with you.
Never go to someone’s house that you have just met.
When dating you should….
Always tell someone where you are going with your date, with whom, and when you are expected to return.
Check out a first date or a blind date with friends. Meet in and go to public places. Carry money for a taxi or take your own car in case you need to cut the date short.
Pay attention to what your date says about him or herself. If you detect discrepancies this should raise a flag.
Trust your instincts. If a place or the way your date acts makes you nervous or uneasy get away from the situation.
When out with friends, stay together and try not to separate. Do not leave a social event with someone you have just met or do not know well.
If you do not know someone's real name, you do not know them.
Be careful not to let alcohol or other drugs decrease your ability to take care of yourself and make sensible decisions.
Do not accept beverages from someone you do not know or trust. Never leave it unattended.
You do not have the right to force a date to have sex just because you paid for dinner or drinks.
Accept a person’s decision when he/she says, “No!” Do not interpret that as a challenge.
Avoid clouding your judgment and understanding of what another person wants by using alcohol or drugs.
Do not assume that a person wants to have sex just because he/she is drinking heavily, the way he/she dresses, or agrees to go home with you.
Never have sex with anyone who is passed out or asleep.
Do not assume that just because a person has had sex with you previously he or she is willing to have sex with you again.
Do not assume that if a person consents to kissing or other sexual intimacies he or she is willing to have sexual intercourse.
Forcing a person to have sex against his/her will is sexual assault, a violent crime with serious consequences.
Never be drawn into a gang rape. Be prepared to resist pressure from friends to participate.
If you see a person in trouble at a party or a friend using force or pressuring a person, do not be afraid to intervene. Your intervention may prevent the person from the trauma of sexual assault as well as preventing your friend from the ordeal of criminal repercussions.
Ask yourself how sexual stereotypes affect your attitudes and actions toward other people.
What are “date rape” drugs….
Rohypnol (“roofies,” “circles,” “the forget pills”) works like a tranquilizer. It causes muscle weakness, fatigue, slurred speech, loss of motor coordination and judgment, and amnesia that lasts up to 24 hours. It looks like an aspirin (small, white, and round).
GHB (also known as “liquid X,” “salt water,” or “scoop”) causes quick sedation. Its effects are drowsiness, nausea, vomiting, headaches, dizziness, coma, and possibly death. Its most common form is a clear liquid, although it also can take the form of a white, grainy powder.
Rohypnol and GHB are called the date rape drugs because when they are slipped into someone’s drink a sexual assault can take place without the victim being able to remember what happened.
If you believe you have been subjected to a "date rape" drug call 911 or Campus Police immediately.
On Line Dating
Never give out your home or dorm address, phone number, the name of your school or any other personal details to people you do not know.
If you decide to talk to someone on the phone, ask to call him/her. Make sure to use caller ID block (*67).
Use a nickname in chat rooms or message boards. T
rust your instincts. If you pick up on contradictions or inconsistencies from your chat friend, or something does not feel right, end your communication with him/her.
Meet chat friends in public places.
Always tell someone where you are going with your on-line date, who your on-line date is, and when you will return.
Take a cell phone with you.
Never go to someone’s house that you have just met.