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Recognizing the warning signs of domestic violence and abuse

It's impossible to know with certainty what goes on behind closed doors, but there are some telltale signs and symptoms of emotional abuse and domestic violence. If you witness any warning signs of abuse in a friend, family member, or co-worker, take them very seriously.



Your Inner Thoughts and Feelings                                           Your Partner’s Belittling Behavior
Do you:                                                                                        Does you partner:
Feel afraid of your partner much of the time?                               Humiliate or yell at you?
Avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?            Criticize you and put you down?
Feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?                 Treat you so badly that you are embarrassed? 
Believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?                       Ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
Wonder if your the one who is crazy?                                            Blame you for their own abusive behavior?
Feel emotionally numb or helpless?                                              See you as property or a sex object?

Your Partner’s Violent Behavior or Threats                               Your Partner’s Controlling Behavior
Does your partner:                                                                        Does your partner:                                                  
Have a bad and unpredictable temper?                                          Act excessively jealous and possessive?
Hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?                                        Control where you go or what you do?
Threaten to take your children away or harm them?                      Keep you from seeing your friends or family?
Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?                                       Limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
Force you to have sex?                                                                   Constantly check up on you?
Destroy your belongings? 
Family violence" is a crime and means:

  1. an act by a member of a family or household against another member of the family or household that is intended to result in physical harm, bodily injury, assault, or sexual assault or that is a threat that reasonably places the member in fear of imminent physical harm, bodily injury, assault, or sexual assault, but does not include defensive measures to protect oneself
  2. abuse, as that term is defined by Sections 261.001(1)(C), (E), and (G), by a member of a family or household toward a child of the family or household; or
  3. dating violence, as that term is defined by Section 71.0021

College Resources

For offenses including domestic violence and dating violence, sanctions range from warnings through expulsion. Serious and violent incidents and acts of non-consensual sexual intercourse (the policy equivalent to the crime of rape) usually result in suspension, expulsion or termination of employment. This policy can be found online.

Procedurally, when the College receives a report of sexual misconduct, gender-based violence, or other sex or gender discrimination the campus Title IX Coordinator is notified.

If the victim wishes to access local community agencies and/or law enforcement for support, the College will assist the victim in making these contacts.

Campus Police 903-675-6235
Melinda Berry the campus victim’s advocate
Dian Gard, Ph. D 903-887-0697
Julianne Davis Ph. D 903-675-7710
Bill McBride Ph. D 903-675-9570
Bonnie McBride LCSW 903-675-9570
Joan Freidman LPC 214-415-1258
Summer Allen Wilson, LCSW 903-677-4800
East Texas Crisis Center at 903-595-5591 or 800-333-0358
National domestic violence hotline 1-800-799-7223

Contact the Campus Police at 903-675-6235 located in the Student Union building suite 103, Student Judicial office 903-675-6256 located in the Administration building suite AD127, or the Director of Human Resources 903-675-6215 located in the Administration building suite AD 214 if you need assistance with Trinity Valley Community College-related concerns, such as no-contact orders or other protective measures. The Campus Police, Director of Human Resources, and Councilor will also assist in any needed advocacy for students who wish to obtain protective or restraining orders from local authorities. The College is able to offer reasonable academic accommodations, changes to living arrangements, transportation accommodations, escorts, no contact orders, counseling services access and other supports and resources as needed by a victim.

The Title IX Coordinator will offer assistance to victims in the form of interim or long-terms measures such as opportunities for academic accommodations, changes in housing for the victim or the responding student, visa and immigration assistance, changes in working situations and other assistance as may be appropriate and available on campus or in the community (such as no contact orders, campus escorts, transportation assistance, targeted interventions, etc).

If the victim so desires, they will be connected with a counselor on- or off-campus, as well as an on-or off-campus victim’s advocate. No victim is required to take advantage of these services and resources, but the College provides them in the hopes of offering help and support without condition or qualification. A summary of rights, options, supports and procedures, in the form of this document, is provided to all victims, whether they are a student, employee, guest or visitor.

When appropriate upon receipt of notice, the Title IX Coordinator will cause a prompt, fair and impartial process to be initiated, commencing with an investigation which may lead to the imposition of sanctions, based upon a preponderance of evidence (what is more likely than not), upon a responding student or other accused individual. Procedures detailing the investigation and resolution processes of the College can be found online.

The investigation and records of the resolution conducted by the College are maintained confidentially. Information is shared internally between administrators who need to know, but a tight circle is kept. Where information must be shared to permit the investigation to move forward, the person bringing the accusation will be informed.

Privacy of the records specific to the investigation are maintained in accordance with Texas law and the federal FERPA statute. Any public release of information to comply with the open crime logs or timely warning provisions of the Clery Act will not release the names of victims or information that could easily lead to a victim’s identification.

Additionally, the College maintains privacy in relation to any accommodations or protective measures afforded to a victim, except to the extent necessary to provide the accommodations and/or protective measures.

In any complaint of sexual misconduct, sexual assault, stalking, dating violence, domestic violence or other sex or gender-based discrimination covered under the federal law, Title IX, the person bringing the accusation and the responding party are entitled to the same opportunities for a support person or advisor of their choice throughout the process, including any meeting, conference, hearing or other procedural action.

Once complete, the parties will be informed, in writing, of the outcome, including the finding, the sanctions (if any) and the rationale therefore. Delivery of this outcome to the parties will occur without undue delay between notifications. All parties will be informed of the College appeal processes, and their rights to exercise a request for appeal. Should any change in outcome occur prior to finalization, all parties will be timely informed in writing, and will be notified when the results of the resolution process become final.